Quiet Thoughts with Sara

Sometimes, in our most vulnerable state, people will come into our lives. Sometimes this is a good thing and sometimes they are just a walking red flag trying to see what they can get over on you. We must guard our hearts against such people. They will drain you to the point of mental exhaustion before you can blink twice. If you are in a season of singleness right now like I am…it may be a good idea to embrace this time and learn more about who you are as an individual. As I relearn who I am as an individual and not just someone’s wife, I am learning to like and love myself. I believed for a long time that to do either was selfish..I know that sounds crazy but that just how it was. Now I know it’s not, it’s actually very healthy…you should like and love who you are. You have to before you can open yourself up to love from someone else. And in finding this I find myself remembering who I am the daughter of….i am the daughter of The King! He loves e and created me in His imagine, so for me to not like myself is like telling God I don’t like something that He created….and He only creates perfection.

But let’s talk red flags. Stay rooted in prayer and guard your heart. Truly listen when someone talks…if they are a walking red flag you will hear it. Subtle discrepancies in what they tell you when come up. Sometimes so small you may miss them…but stay ever centered in prayer and in the Word and God will show you. Watch how they treat and talk to you. If they put you down but then follow up with something like, I’m only trying to help you be better…no…there are better ways to help someone grow than to belittle and put them down. Is this person pouring into you or do they only take from you and never reciprocate….big red flag! If we give all of ourselves without being filled back up by our partner, then we will give out all too quickly. You should both be pouring into each other, that way when one is not able to give their all one day the other can pick up the slack and vice versa. Also, your person should support your dreams and not put them down. You should be encouraged not told that you will fail…that mindset right there will cause failure. So again, I urge, stay in prayer and in His word….because these walking red flags are great at deception….guard your heart, your soul, and your peace. God has the perfect person, and in His timing they will come. Don’t be in a spot to where you miss that person.

I know this is a little off beat…but it’s my quiet moments and something on my heart to share. Love you all. Go out and smile! Make your day and someone else’s day better by doing so!❤️

-Sara